While many people tell me they are not afraid of public speaking, others often confide that once a group goes past five or six in a conference room, they immediately start experiencing a high level of anxiety.
One community leader admitted sheâ€™d
Â â€œrather eat glass than speak in public.â€
Why the frequent stress associated with this task?
Quite simply, itâ€™s the â€œfâ€ words that are often associated with speaking out of your comfort zone. That is, we allow fear and other similar â€œfâ€ words to take over our thinking. Here are some:
failure, flopping, looking foolish or fat, f^*# up, losing friends, fidgety audience, frightening off fans, flipping out, forgetting what you intended to say, fending off critics, finding fault, frantic, fantasizing, frivolous, or folding under pressure.
And there are more â€¦
framing things wrong, falling on your behind, freezing, futile, among others.
No wonder many find themselves forlorn at the prospect of speaking before a group!
How can you rid your mind of the negative â€œfâ€ words related to public speakingÂ when you are presenting yourself, whether for business or community purposes?
First,Â replace those drag-you-down â€œfâ€ words with their more positive counterparts.
Consider the rewards of
fame, fortune, flash, fans, front-page, fantastic, friendship, focus, followers, front-row, field position, forward, freedom, favorite, favors, flavor, fearless, feisty, and fascinating.
Imagine, also, being known as offering ideas or information that is regarded as
far out, futuristic, feel-good, fluorescent, flying high, favored status, fixed, firm, fomenting, foundation, flourishing, fulfillment, and forever.
Second, plan your messageâ€™s content carefully and give yourself ample time to practice it aloud, refining as needed. Good writing usually requires rewriting, and writing the spoken word is different than writing to be read with the eyes only. Â Success comes from practicing your presentation or speech out of order, in pieces, at least nine separate times. Great speakers are made, not born!
Now, get ready for thunderous applause, tons of â€œyesâ€ answers and many +F words in accolades youâ€™ll receive when itâ€™s your turn to speak n the days ahead.
By the way, the +F words win! 32 +f Â words appear in this blog versus 22 â€“ f words. Please send your â€œfâ€ word nominations for either category toÂ [email protected]. I would love to add them to our collection! Also, please respond with what works for you and any comments you may have.
Who Am I? You might say I like the letter â€œF.â€
MyÂ first name is Anne, my last name isÂ Freedman and I kept the initial, marrying EdÂ Fischer. We live inÂ Florida. Miami to be exact. I attended the University ofÂ Florida. Studied journalism and became a reporter, originally and idealistically, toÂ Fight injustice and promoteÂ Freedom.
After working as aÂ Freelance writer for several years, IÂ Founded my company, committed to helping peopleÂ Find the right words toÂ Fulfill their personal and business missions, and to eliminate Fear from their public speaking, sales and leadership roles. Along the way, we added aÂ Focus on team communication as well. Our latestÂ Foray is into technology, developing a mobile app. (More on that inÂ February!)
Today, â€œFâ€ remains aÂ Favorite letter; however, I am truly aÂ Fan ofÂ allÂ 26 in the alphabet. Working together, these remarkable little symbols enable us toÂ Form the ideas and conversations that shape ourÂ Future.
I lookÂ Forward to being a part ofÂ yourÂ Future, helping youÂ Fulfill your vision for yourself, your organization and your community, using the power of the spoken word.
Want your next presentation or speech to go better than ever? I invite you to watch my video, a live recording of â€œHow to Avoid the Five Biggest Speaking Mistakes That Leaders Make,â€ presented to the Florida International Bankers Association – FIBA Chats recently in Miami. Just click here.