When you put a little structure into your opening remarks, youâ€™ll find anxiety diminishing and confidence soaring! Whether you are being introduced or you are introducing yourself, there are two main components to develop and rehearse:
1) Pre-opening formalities â€“ including thank you, your greeting and an optional, gracious throwaway line.
2) Attention grabbing opening statement â€“ for example, a story, commanding fact, or provocative question.
As part of the pre-opening process, if you are being introduced, as a guest speaker or invited vendor, say something first like: â€œThank you for that great introduction, (name of person).â€ Make sure you know how to pronounce the personâ€™s name correctly, and write it out phonetically if necessary.
Next is the greeting.Â Itâ€™s the equivalent of a formal â€œhello.â€ Traditionally, speakers say â€œLadies and Gentlemen,â€ or â€œHello, everyone,â€ or simply, â€œGood morning!â€ Try out what feels comfortable for you, and then practice it multiple times to you are totally comfortable and relaxed when saying your greeting.
Include what I call an â€œoptional, gracious throwaway line.â€Â Youâ€™ve heard them used but may not have realized what you were hearing! When a speaker says, â€œItâ€™s great to be with you today.â€ Or, starts a talk by saying, â€œHow â€˜bout those (sports team nickname)!,â€ he or she is using anÂ optional gracious throwaway line. The words do not advance the message. They simply give the speaker and the audience a few seconds to adjust to each other.
Prepare a really compelling opening statement that youâ€™re excited to present.Â Part of the fear factor that sometimes jumps into our subconscious (or conscious!) mind is the worry that weâ€™re going to be boring and lose the audience from the get-go.
How can you overcome this painful possibility? Here are three proven opening techniques to try out:
â€¢ Develop an opening statement that is purposely designed to command attention. You can share a compelling, relevant personal experience, timed to be a minute or less.
â€¢ Introduce a statistic that is impossible to ignore. (Florida sells more oxycodone than nearly all other states combined.)
â€¢ Pose an intriguing question that will result in a â€œyesâ€ answer among those in your audience. You want to create a sense that everyone in the room is part of the â€œshow,â€ an â€œinâ€ group and not an â€œoutâ€ group.
Once your pre-opening and opening statements are written, say them aloud at least nine timesÂ (not necessarily all at the same time!) to be sure you can pronounce everything in as â€œnaturalâ€ a way as possible. Put a smile in your voice! (If you pretend to be enthusiastic long enough, you actually start to feel that way.)
Stand before a mirror or video yourself to see your posture. Record yourself to hear your tone and diction. Too serious? Think of someone tickling you or whatever will help you take the edge away.
When you organize your comments and appear to be in control and enjoying yourself â€” from the moment you start speaking â€” no one will know otherwise, will they?
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