Whenever you open your mouth, you have the option of having aÂ hellishÂ or aÂ heavenlyÂ outcome. The goal of this blogÂ is to help you avoid strike-outs and instead, hit your points home!
First, weâ€™ll explore four â€œhâ€ words that can doom you to failure as a speaker, leader or team member. Then, Iâ€™ll introduce you to four positive â€œhâ€ words that can guide you to the success youâ€™re seeking when you need to convince or captivate others â€“ whether a group or one-on-one.
What are the four â€œhâ€ words that can doom you to failure as a speaker, leader or team member?
#1 = Hurrying!!Â
When we are nervous, we sometimes â€œraceâ€ through our remarks â€¦ especially towards the end of our comments. What happens when we go too fast, however, is that we fail to give our audience time to absorb and reflect on what weâ€™re saying. Remember, what you are relating is most likely being heard for theÂ firstÂ time â€¦ whether itâ€™s your team of co-workers or volunteers, a prospective client, a journalist, an industry group, or the Board of Directors. (Parent/child relationships are exempt!)Â Recommended:Â Slow yourself down. Breathe. Plan deliberate pauses at strategic places.
#2 = Harping!!Â
Itâ€™s one thing to try and make your point several different ways to be sure everyone understands and buys your reasoning. But you doom your chances when you go on and on about a particular point, otherwise known asÂ harpingÂ on the topic. The technique doesnâ€™t usually work at home and it wonâ€™t work at the office either. Recommended: Revise, edit, eliminate!
#3 = Hurtful.
â€œHoney,â€ the adage goes, â€œattracts more flies than vinegar.â€ Anger, disappointment and being let down can make us want to lash out at someone or a group. Instead, think through the situation at hand and offer solutions. Thatâ€™s true leadership, and isnâ€™t that what you are cut out to be?
#4 = (Saying) However.
However â€¦ is just another â€œhâ€ word that replaces the word â€œbutâ€ â€¦ and still usually means another foot is about to drop. To quiet down a potentially explosive conversation, try saying something positive first, followed by the word, â€œandâ€ instead of the word, â€œhoweverâ€ (or but).
Now, what are the Positive â€œHâ€ words that lead to â€˜home runsâ€™ at the office and in the community?
#1 = Heart!Â The song says, â€œYouâ€™ve got to have heart â€¦ all you need is heartâ€¦â€ The truth is, as a speaker, you need an organized, thoughtful presentation of your ideas, product or service â€“ but that usually is not enough! A message without passion, without â€œheart,â€ generally leaves another person or a group unmoved. You know youâ€™ve put your â€œheartâ€ into your words when you can feel â€“ and others can see â€“ the â€œtwinkle in your eye.â€ If your words remain â€œflatâ€ and uninspired, nothing is likely to happen.
#2 = Happening or Hot!Â As you develop your content, ask yourself, â€œis what I am sharing new? Is it something people will leave talking about in a positive way?â€ Otherwise, revisit your thoughts and â€œfreshenâ€ them up!
#3 = Helpful.Â Today, most folks are overwhelmed, feeling under-appreciated, under-paid and overworked. Worse, many talented people remain unemployed or underemployed. I urge you to craft your message, no matter where you are or to whom youâ€™re speaking, to be as useful and relevant as possible. Youâ€™ll be not only noticed but really and trulyÂ heardÂ â€¦ #4 â€¦ the ultimate â€œHâ€ word.Â Hereâ€™s to you and all the happy, healthy, humorous, hilarious, hearty, hip, and well-heeled adventures that await your use of the right â€œhâ€ words.